Through my rejection therapy experience, I learned that the weirdness of my request isn’t always positively correlated to rejection rate. In this session when I was trying to play soccer in someone’s backyard, the owner said ‘yes’ because the request was so “off the wall”. Today, I wanted to make another weird request – asking someone to put on sunglasses for no reason.
I was very surprised at the time that everyone said ‘yes’ to my request. Then, after some thoughts afterward, I found that I shouldn’t have been surprised at all.
1. The request was very harmless. Unlike when I was trying to partner up with someone to buy lottery, there is no downside in accepting my request.
2. Even though there was no justification for my request, there isn’t a legit justification for a rejection either, other than “I don’t feel like it”. Putting myself in their shoes, I feel it’s probably harder to say ‘no’ then ‘yes’.
Learning: 1. It is hard for people to give rejections, and even harder to reject harmless and easy requests. 2. If you want to get a ‘yes’, making a weird request is much better than making a dangerous request.