

“Stupidity talks, vanity acts” – Victor Hugo
“Stupid vanity sells” – Jia Jiang (just made up)
If people and corporations are willing to spend money buying vanity license plates or stadium naming rights, I wondered why coffee shops don’t sell Internet passcode to vain individuals or businesses with mis-allocated marketing budgets? Think about it, you walk into Starbucks, log in to WI-FI network, and are forced to type the passcode “JustDoIt”. Guess when next time your tennis shoes are worn out, which store will you go?
Before I sell this idea to Starbucks for $50 million, I went to a famous local coffee shop called Dominican Joe, trying to convince the barista to reset their WI-FI passcode for me as a rejection session.
As I mentioned in the video, Dominican Joe’s owner contacted me a couple of months ago on a sports message board call Clutchfans, asking if I could do a rejection session in his store. So I did.
This was probably the most confident feeling I had for a rejection session, mainly because I had the permission from the owner. Also, the barita lady was fantastic to chat with. She was engaging and curious. When she heard my request, she gave a big smile and asked why.
Being a huge fan of the word ‘why’, I always use the word when people reject my requests. It let’s me understand the underlying reason for a rejection, so I can negotiate and address that reason.
Moreover, when people ask me ‘why’ before saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to my request, I feel being respected, and I always enjoy having the opportunity to explain myself.
Learning: 1. Confidence comes easily when I have an ally from the other side. 2. Using the title of Simon Sinek’s famous book, always Start with Why.
Hmmm, now I’m curious to see what the owner thought of your session in his shop! And the barista is adorable. His/her company is in good hands with her running things.
Hi,
I recently stumbled upon you from your TED talk on youtube. What you do is very inspirational and I hope to God that I have the courage to begin a rejection therapy. I’m currently stuck in a rut looking for a graduate job. I’ve been to several inteviews, but to no avail. How do you keep positive and look towards success if all you get is rejection after rejection (thus developing a fear of rejection).
p.s., good to see that you are on Clutchfans too. Go Rockets!,